In recent years there has been increasing academic attention to forms and practices of disconnection to social networking sites. However, there has been limited attention to non-use/departures, particularly with dating apps. In this article I draw on 27 interviews with previous and current users of dating apps to explore their practices of leaving/deleting their dating apps. For the majority of participants, leaving a dating app was due to ‘success’ in finding a relationship. For others, it was the ‘failure’ to find a relationship. I suggest that this highlights not only the centrality of finding/not finding a relationship to dating app use and departure, but also a particular construction of relationships: romantic, sexually exclusive/monogamous and life-long. This was the case for the majority of participants who identified as heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual and queer and indicates the reproduction and valuing of a particular relationship form and practice for diverse users.

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“当你删除 Tinder 时，这是承诺的标志”：离开约会应用程序和复制浪漫、一夫一妻制的关系实践

近年来，学术界越来越关注与社交网站断开连接的形式和做法。然而，对不使用/离开的关注有限，尤其是约会应用程序。在这篇文章中，我对 27 位约会应用程序的以前和当前用户进行了采访，以探索他们离开/删除约会应用程序的做法。对于大多数参与者来说，离开约会应用程序是因为“成功”找到了关系。对于其他人来说，找到一段关系是“失败”。我建议这不仅突出了寻找/不寻找约会应用程序使用和离开关系的中心性，还突出了关系的一种特殊结构：浪漫、性排斥/一夫一妻制和终生。大多数被认定为异性恋、同性恋、