ABSTRACT

Disturbances to one's sense of self, the feeling that one has ‘lost a part of oneself’ or that one ‘no longer feels like oneself,’ are frequently recounted throughout the bereavement literature. Engaging Allan Køster's important contribution to this issue, this article reinforces his suggestion that, by rupturing the existential texture of self-familiarity, bereavement can result in experiences of estrangement that can be meaningfully understood according to the concept of self-alienation. Nevertheless, I suggest that whilst Køster's relational interpretation of alienation as the withdrawal of heteronomy can be applied to the experience of world-collapse in bereavement, what sets bereavement apart from other limit situations is the fact that it involves an intersubjective relation between the living and the dead. In contrast to Køster, therefore, I suggest that the experience of self-alienation that is distinctive to bereavement results from the fact that the bereaved is exposed to, and co-opted by, the absolute alterity of death itself.

摘要

对自我意识的干扰，一个人“失去了自己的一部分”或一个人“不再感觉自己”的感觉，在丧葬文学中经常被提及。考虑到艾伦·科斯特 (Allan Køster) 对这一问题的重要贡献，本文强化了他的建议，即通过破坏自我熟悉的存在结构，丧亲会导致疏远的体验，根据自我异化的概念，这种体验可以被有意义地理解。尽管如此，我认为，虽然 Køster 对异化的关系解释是他律的撤回应用于丧亲中世界崩溃的体验，丧亲与其他极限情况的区别在于它涉及生者与死者之间的主体间关系。因此，与 Køster 不同的是，我认为与丧亲之痛不同的自我异化体验源于这样一个事实，即丧亲者暴露于死亡本身的绝对差异性，并被其吸收。