In the title to this paper, Maya, a British-Bangladeshi woman, expresses her frustration at the refusal of the Home Office to grant her father in Sylhet a visa to come and fulfil his role as family head at the wedding of his son, Maya's brother, in London. The case illustrates well the intersection of gender and generation that fundamentally shapes the pattern of visits, in both directions, across this long-distance transnational social and family space. Bangladesh is a patriarchal society, with marked gender divisions layered across generations, which are largely reproduced among the migrant community in London and are manifested, in various ways, in the phenomenon of transnational visiting. Based on 61 in-depth interviews in London and Sylhet, supplemented by participant observation, we delineate the gendered and generational structures framing the visits, both of migrants to the homeland and of non-migrants to their relatives in London.

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“去探望家人是一件很自然的事情……但这对我们来说并不容易”：孟加拉国人在伦敦和锡尔赫特之间的跨国访问中的性别和世代

在本文的标题中，英国-孟加拉国妇女玛雅 (Maya) 表达了她对内政部拒绝向她在锡尔赫特 (Sylhet) 的父亲发放签证，让她在儿子玛雅 (Maya) 的婚礼上履行家长职责的失望。兄弟，在伦敦。这个案例很好地说明了性别和世代的交集，这种交集从根本上塑造了跨越这个长距离跨国社会和家庭空间的双向访问模式。孟加拉国是一个男权社会，代际之间存在明显的性别差异，这种差异在伦敦的移民社区中得到了很大程度的再现，并以各种方式体现在跨国访问现象中。基于伦敦和锡尔赫特的 61 次深度访谈，辅以参与式观察，